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Talking About Death and Incapacity

By June 17, 2024No Comments
Brown Lawyers, Death and Incapacity planning. Legal Foundations Handbook

Talking About Death and Incapacity

As we embark on the process of creating a Will and Powers of Attorney, it is helpful to start with an acknowledgement that what we are going to be talking about are death and incapacity: and, not just anyone’s death or incapacity but your death and your incapacity.

This might be the first time you have ever truly reflected on this. In our society, we go to great lengths to try to make death invisible and to position it as something that is separate from ourselves. In this context, it is not surprising that many people lack the emotional and practical skills to talk about death and dying. Talking about death is not easy. It can be uncomfortable and scary. For many, it is simply taboo.

We cannot outsmart death

However, this inability to acknowledge our own mortality does not serve us well. It leaves us and our loved ones ill-prepared for the inevitable. The simple truth is that we cannot outsmart death. Death is inevitable. There is no life without death. When we acknowledge this reality, rather than denying it, we invite these processes into our lives and allow ourselves to better prepare for what is to come.

Interestingly, when we embrace dying as a part of living, we begin to develop a relationship with death that allows us to live more fully. Talking about your death ultimately leads to a conversation about how you want to live. As we work to become more accepting of our own death, we can focus more on how to live as fully and meaningfully as possible.

Planning for our death

Our hope is that through this process of creating a Will and Powers of Attorney, you will invite some level of curiosity about death and incapacity into your life. When we make space for our dying in our living, the process of planning for our death begins to shift from being a frightening and uncomfortable experience to one that feels deeply meaningful, empowering, and healthy.

Welcome to your journey.

The Brown Lawyers Legal Foundations Handbook is a practical guide to the decisions you will need to make as you prepare your Will, Power of Attorney for Property and Power of Attorney for Personal Care. Wills and Powers of Attorney are the foundation of Death and Incapacity Planning – the ongoing process of exploring, accepting, and preparing for all aspects of your death and incapacity. With these legal documents in place, you are ready to uncover all the possibilities that exist to prepare yourself and your loved ones for change. Get in touch with us to learn more about completing this important work, and how we can help you do it.